Postcard: Mata Ne

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Mata Ne

by Ian Cruz

“Will you do that for me?” I asked him.

His answer was a small laugh. It was a scoff, but not a derisive one. He leaned forward and kissed me on the lips. In private, we had exchanged hundreds of kisses. Thousands. Tens of thousands, surely, throughout the duration of our two-year relationship.

He turned his attention back to the black-and-white manga on his lap. His long fingers had seemingly evolved into perfect bookmarks.

“You know what I mean,” I said with a sad smile. “So…?”
Uunn.”

Throughout the past two years, I’d gotten used to these kinds of responses. Un, short and sweet, was an affirmation. Uun, on the other hand, slightly longer and drawn out, was negative.

Occasionally, when being intentionally vague, he would murmur the third option that was harder to discern: Uunn.
“You don’t want to kiss me at the airport?” I asked.

“No, I want.” he said in his adorable English. He patted my cheek, breaking away from whatever story he was lost in. “But is hard…”

I stretched out on my futon next to his with a sigh.I stretched out my leg and entangled with his. Closing my eyes, I listened to the rhythmic whir of the small fan positioned next to us.

“I know,” I said quietly in Japanese. “But nobody will care.”

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Being gay in Japan is a strange experience. Any kind of LGBTQ lifestyle is not very well understood. The only real exposure comes from atrociously camp TV celebrities who exploit whatever stereotype they can for airtime. Apart from this, it’s rarely even discussed at all.

My boyfriend was by no means ashamed of me when we were in public together, but he was always cautious. He would give me a playful nudge or poke in the stomach every so often. If we were out of sight from others, he would even intertwine one of his fingers with mine, but it was always tinged with the unspoken fear that someone might see.

A favorite activity of ours was to take couples purikura and  decorate them afterwards. We would scrawl sparkly words like ‘Scandalous!’ and ‘Handsome guys!’ across pictures of us kissing or holding hands.

But this kind of carefree, normal expression of affection for one another seemed to be best left in photo booths that made our eyes enormous or in the company of our friends. In the real world, it seemed, it was just too uncomfortable and dangerous for him.

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My last day in Japan, we headed to the airport at around six in the morning. We slumped in uncomfortable airport seats, partially isolated from the rest of the waiting area. When I rested my head on his bony shoulder, he didn’t shift away awkwardly as I’d expected him to. Instead, he tilted his head to rest against mine.

We sat that way for a while, perfectly secluded in our subtle embrace. No photo booths, no friends or familiar faces around us. It felt right. Natural. And I felt my brain and heart give a kind of sigh. A shudder. Why didn’t we do this earlier? Why couldn’t we do this earlier?

The time came for us to say goodbye. I stood up, my limbs heavy in protest and my heart filled with dread. I willed myself to move toward the security gate – the rabbit hole I would disappear back into, leaving this strange, wonderful country behind.

I turned to him. My boy. My rock that I’d been fortunate enough to cling to for two years. His face was contorted into the stoic expression that the Japanese have perfected for times when they don’t want to cry.

“I’ll…see you later.” I said in Japanese, almost casually. “It’s not sayonara, it’s mata ne.”

He nodded and I saw his bottom lip begin to quiver. Mine quivered in response. We both wanted nothing more than to use our lips like we’d grown accustomed to for the past two years. But we couldn’t. Not here.

Instead, I pulled him in to the biggest, tightest embrace I could.

As I passed through the metal detector and collected my things at the end of the conveyor belt, I cast a look back to where he was still standing. He waved sadly. I returned his wave and tears burst suddenly from my eyes. I gathered my things, tucked my head down and forced myself onward.

I was able to make it all the way to my gate before I devolved into a quiet, sobbing mess.

It hit me all at once and I cried for it all. I cried for the friends and relationships I was leaving behind. I cried for the country that I had grown to love. And of course, I cried for my first love.

But mostly, I cried because I knew that nobody would ask me if I was okay.

I wanted to shout to all the people staring awkwardly at me that they were all bearing witness to heartbreak firsthand. I wanted to tell them all that I just left the man that I loved behind. To tell them that all I wanted was to run back and kiss him one last time.

“But,” my brain answered back in Japanese, “nobody will care.”

 Ian Cruz is a curly-haired Gemini living in San Antonio, Texas. After teaching in Japan for three years, he is currently planning his next adventure. He enjoys dancing, laughing, traveling and eating. He also speaks English, Spanish and Japanese with varying levels of proficiency (depending on what he’s had to drink). Above all, he would love to meet you!

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